‘Getting to know’ as opposed to ‘dating’

CakeFri 27th December 2024

This year, I stopped using the d-word. It feels like a relic from a past when I’ve not...

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Wake-up call

CakeFri 27th December 2024

Your 40’s and/or 50’s can be the time of an existential wake-up call. If it is, or you...

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Someone you know is (still) kinky (and even more so than before)

CakeSun 1st December 2024

On December 1st, I published a short story called Bulletproof as well as a collection of five short stories. Both are...

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Midlife mayhem and magic – thoughts and dreams for everyone

CakeTue 27th September 2022

Midlife (by which I mean your 40s and 50s) is a magic- and mayhem-filled time of change and...

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Conscious Commitment

CakeTue 7th June 2022

Commitment is a marker for many long-term relationships and is often something we also crave or need from...

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Disappointment

CakeTue 7th September 2021

—Can we go to the crystals shop? —I’m sorry, I can’t do that with you right now. I...

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Conscious relationships: not a numbers game

CakeFri 27th August 2021

Many people think about non-monogamy or poly in terms of numbers: numbers of partners, play friends, lovers.  This...

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Dreaming relationships

CakeFri 27th August 2021

When it comes to relationships, what we want might be at odds with what we need. And, when...

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Living is growing

CakeMon 28th June 2021

Many of us become more interested in dying and death as we age because, in a way, that’s...

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