Hopefulness and the new year

CakeThu 27th December 2018

Van Gogh painted the six sunflower paintings as a symbol of hope. I am feeling, in this week...

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On Winter

CakeThu 6th December 2018

It can be easy to see Winter as a long, cold, wet slog until Spring and Summer. It is...

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Limiting ways to ‘use’ or think about being open / non monogamous / poly

CakeMon 3rd December 2018

One thing I have noticed about non-monogamy and polyamory is that it can often be used as a way...

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Who is in your bedroom right now?

CakeThu 22nd November 2018

It has been over three years since the Ashley Madison hacking scandal and, with social media increasingly cited as a...

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What my son eating (or not eating) broccoli has to do with sex: thoughts on food, sex, pleasure and society

CakeThu 15th November 2018

Recently I have been thinking a lot about pleasure. I have noticed how hard I find it hard...

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Selfishness, self care and self determination

CakeThu 8th November 2018

One of the things I have been called many times is “selfish”. A lot of the time that...

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What are the ‘should’s in your life telling you? A re-visioning of self-care

CakeThu 1st November 2018

I should eat better… I should go to the gym… I should watch less TV… I should get...

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How do we model what we do not see? Learning to be patient in an impatient world

CakeThu 18th October 2018

Attention and patience: the two things that we find hard, or are reluctant, to give but which we...

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The Strictly snog

CakeThu 11th October 2018

The Strictly “curse” strikes again and yet, this time, it feels different. There feels like a very real gap between...

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