Why change can be excellent*

CakeThu 11th October 2018

It is so easy to focus on the HARD aspects of change that I wanted to take a...

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Kink and me: A story about making mistakes and learning to explore sex and desire consciously

CakeThu 4th October 2018

I can still see those first images. The first D/s* images I EVER saw. He had said: you...

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Consciously exploring sex: Mapping your landscapes of desire

CakeThu 4th October 2018

There are many different starting points for the journey into your own landscapes of desire and, hopefully, the...

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Conscious explorations of sex and desire… and the story of my journey into kink and BDSM

CakeThu 4th October 2018

Some of the most powerful scenes in my first book (Appetite) are also the scenes hardly anyone talks about....

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Habits and change

CakeThu 27th September 2018

Over the summer I thought a lot about change and the different types of change that goes on...

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Love and tr(us)t

CakeThu 20th September 2018

Our society tells us love is weak It is the strongest force we have Our society encourages us...

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Writing about all the things

CakeThu 13th September 2018

I am writing this to let you, dear reader, know that I am going to be changing a...

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“Wanderlust”, opening up and creating extraordinary relationships

CakeSat 8th September 2018

A shorter version of this piece appeared in The Sun on September 8th 2018 https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/7205339/polyamorous-relationships-sex-… Every relationship, even...

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Self-care and saving the world

CakeThu 30th August 2018

With the changes of recent years, which include the loss of my father, my mum’s cancer, the end...

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