One-penis policies: processing jealousy and the need for rules about rules

CakeThu 5th July 2018

The question that most people ask, when they learn that a person is exploring a non-monogamous or polyamorous...

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The limitations and possibilities of language

CakeTue 26th June 2018

I have written previously about the power and limitations of language and, as I said then, the core concept...

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What “The School Of Life” has wrong about polyamory and non-monogamy

CakeMon 25th June 2018

A post from 2016 by The School of Life is making the rounds again and, having watched it,...

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Affairs, desire and conscious relationships

CakeSat 16th June 2018

I recently had a wonderful conversation with writer and traveller, Christine Wild, about desire and conscious relationships, here...

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72

CakeThu 14th June 2018

71 pairs of hands that will never hug or play again 71 pairs of feet that every summer’s grass will...

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What having a crush taught me: feelings as signposts to understanding

CakeThu 7th June 2018

I love it when you come across a simple idea communicated effectively in a short piece of writing,...

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A Guide to Conscious Relationships

CakeThu 17th May 2018

Commit to explicit, honest and timely communication The importance of clear and open communication cannot be over-stated. This means...

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Snap Out of It

CakeTue 15th May 2018

It was on reading yet another piece of exceptional, but bleak, journalism about the impact of chocolate production...

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Why being ‘selfish’ made me a better parent

CakeThu 26th April 2018

One of the most common accusations I have had levelled at me since I came out about my...

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